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Healthy Marriage 8-Episode Series Recap

Brandon and Jerry recap eight episodes of Beyond the Rut that focused on healthy marriage relationships.Full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/239Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Winning to Wealth Michael Lacy is Living a Debt-Free Lifestyle

Michael Lacy started his marriage with $61,000 in consumer debt and shares how he and his wife created a debt-free lifestyle while winning to wealth.Debt-Free LifestyleWhat is it like to be debt-free? Nothing can keep us from our financial goals like consumer debt. The idea of having what you want now and paying for it later with interest binds you in a way that prevents you from putting money aside for that next vacation or towards your retirement investing. The average American has over $45,000 in debt and lives paycheck-to-paycheck. There’s no rule that says we need to be normal. That was the decision the Lacys made on their honeymoon. They learned how to become wealthy by learning how to become debt-free. This episode explores how Michael and Taylor went about the following steps:Stating their valuesCreating their goals - financially and otherwiseImplemented a plan to pay off all their $61,000 of consumer debt in 16 monthsSaved six months’ of expenses to prevent a backslide from using credit againInvest for financial securityThey now live a debt-free lifestyle, only leveraging credit cards for something called “travel hacking”. More than half of their income goes into investments making their money work for them.About Michael LacyMichael and his wife, Taylor, are just your everyday millennial couple raising their daughter, Alison, deep in the heart of Texas.While on their honeymoon, Michael had the stark realization they were starting their marriage with over $61,000 in consumer debt. They were broke and on a path for worse. It’s commonly said that most arguments in marriage are about money. Well, Michael and Taylor had a money fight on their honeymoon! They worked together, and made a decision to become debt-free, and paid off that debt in debt in only 16 months!The Lacys created Winning To Wealth in 2018 to help thousands of couples just like themselves to save more money, pay off their debt, and get started investing. It’s all about teaching you how to become wealthy and live a debt-free lifestyle.Resources and LinksGo to Michael’s website, WinningToWealth.com, and download a free copy of “Winning to Wealth” which includes tips on how to get out of debt, save more money, and start investing for your financial future.Listen to these past episodes:BtR 237 - Try These Tips to Master Money Issues in Marriage During a Pandemic with Dan HinzBtR 211 - How to Adult with Money Featuring Dan HinzBtR 224 - Interview with House of FI host, Wendy Mays, How a Lawyer MommaGo to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Try These Tips to Master Money Issues in Marriage During a Pandemic with Dan Hinz

 Dan Hinz from Adulting with Money is back to discuss mastering money issues in marriage during the COVID-19 pandemic.“If you don’t know where you are going, every detour is going to be really difficult.” - Brandon CunninghamMoney Issues in Marriage During COVID-19The COVID-19 pandemic did more than create panic, take lives, and put people in hospitals. It took its toll on families financially.Fear and hoarding impacted available goods in stores, and the prices of some essential items may have risen. Rather than going into a crowded store, many people opted for delivery services which also increased the costs of groceries.Electric bills may have been higher than usual as people worked from home and children completed the school year online from home as well.Many people found themselves with reduced hours, reduced pay, or worse. They could have been furloughed or ultimately laid off from their jobs. Pew Research published in September 2020 that roughly 15% of Americans reported they were laid off from work. Another 15% stated they found new work during the pandemic (Pew Research, 2020).This may have left you crying out, “The financial stress is killing my marriage!” There is hope, and some practical tips to help you get through the current pandemic, or prepare for the next emergency that arises. How to Deal with Money IssuesOur episode this week discusses mastering money issues in marriage by master three practices as a married couple. Set clear goals using real numbers - Do you have a Top 10 priorities list financially?Track your money using an app, spreadsheet, or pad of paperUse monthly budgeting and budget conversations to get you to the “next step” of your financial goals.When it comes to money and relationships, conversations around money are not a one-and-done type of deal. You will need to have regular conversations remembering that you and your spouse are on the same team. The object is not to beat the other at a game, but to come to an agreement where both of you are happy with the decision. These conversations will take practice and patient to master, so start today and keep at it.Financial struggles can be overcome by applying these additional tips discussed in this week’s episode as well:Create and maintain an emergency fundHave two types of meetings on your budget: brainstorming and decision-makingRemind yourself “it will be okay”. Your net worth is not what defines your self worth.If you found yourself wGo to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Meg Glesener on the Secret to 31 Years of a Healthy Marriage

Podcaster Meg Glesener of Letters from Home shares her insights on 31 years of a happy, healthy marriage.About Meg Glesener from Letters from Home PodcastMeg is a mother of eight children living in the state of Washington where she is married to her husband, Mike. Their 31 years of marriage can be chalked up as happy years. They have had their ups and downs as anyone else does, but they have also held firm to some guidelines or principles that have kept them going strong all these years. If you think raising one or two children is challenging, Mike and Meg took on eight and without the backing of a TLC television show!Here is the thing that blew our minds on the Beyond the Rut team. We recorded our interview with Meg right after we recorded the 4-part marriage series. Meg was not aware of these episodes, nor their content. So many parts of her story echoed the tips we shared in those four episodes! At the end of our time, she humbly shared that she just hoped her message would help someone else out there. We simply replied, “You have no idea!”We hope you enjoy this episode about healthy marriages. Know that marriage is not a sprint, it’s not simply a wedding day. Think of it as a journey. Marriage is a life-long commitment to each other, and your marriage can leave a legacy that is greater than yourselves.Resources and LinksDownload the app for Letters from the Home from your app store, or visit Meg’s website to listen to episodes of her show at LettersFromHomePodcast.com.If you’re a Christian and a podcaster, check out the Facebook Group or go to ChristianPodcastersAssociation.com to connect and collaborate with other Christian podcasters.Connect with UsSubscribe on iTunes (Apple Podcasts), Spotify, Stitcher, or iHeartRadio and never miss an episode.Twitter @beyondtherutFacebook Beyond the RutEmail info@beyondtherut.comEpisode CreditsHost: Brandon CunninghamCo-Host, Editing, and Production: Jerry DuganMusic: “Oceans Apart” is our theme song composed and performed by Scott Ian Holmes.See the full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/236Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Caution! What You Speak Over Your Spouse Matters

What you speak over your spouse matters. It's what gets you through the valleys, struggles, and plateaus of your marriage relationship.You may be familiar with the old adage, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." It was often the advice given to console those who were bullied through taunting, brought to the edge, or past the edge, of anger.  Hip Hop Harry probably had it right though, "Words have power! Words have power!" They really do.Throughout history, words have been used to garner excitement, encourage those who are hurting, inspire, and even rally hate.If you are married, chances are words were spoken at a ceremony in the form of vows. Words probably even led up to you connecting with your spouse for that first date, the second, and even the proposal if we go far enough back in time. Words got you into your marriage. Words will either make or break your marriage going forward. This episode will take the time to explore how your words have an impact on your spouse, how to assess the words you are speaking over your spouse, and considerations to make a change going forward. You can see the full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/235.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Ten Free Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage

Brandon and Jerry share ten free tips that you can use any given day to strengthen your marriage. These tips may seem simple, but it is often the little things that will build trust as we discussed in episode 232. Give this episode a listen and start applying one of their tips today. See the full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/234.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Dating Your Spouse to Stay Connected

Brandon and Jerry discuss why you should date your spouse, provide date ideas, and some do's and don'ts to help you be successful again.See the full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/233.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Marriage Facts That Offer You Hope - The Good News

Brandon and Jerry discuss three standout marriage facts from Shaunti Feldhahn's book, The Good News About Marriage, to offer you hope in your own marriage outlook.See the full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/232Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

How Married Couples Can Exercise Selfless Love and Make the World a Better Place

Bill Hutcheson shares his experiences in marriage and ministry to show us how our marriages based on selfless love can drive purpose and passion.About William “Bill” HutchesonWe each have a selfless love story within us and within our own marriages. Bill Hutcheson combines his experiences working in ministry and counseling couples to help us get out of the insanity phase of marriage into a thriving relationship built on selfless love that drives both passion and purpose.Bill Hutcheson knew as a young teen that he would serve. In early college days, he dreamt of being a psychiatrist or a clinical counselor. Mid-sophomore year, he began to wrestle with a call to ministry and assumed he would become a Christian counselor. After graduation, he entered seminary to pursue that passion.His thirty-eight years of ministry to three congregations were marked by a love of preaching/teaching and an emphasis on helping couples strengthen their marriages.His initial counseling interests led to the development of an effective and unique process for pre-marriage preparation. Instead of the typical thirty to sixty minutes of preparation from the pastor, Bill worked six to ten hours face-to-face with each couple. The couples also spent a couple of fun hours doing homework. His emphasis on the marriage, not the wedding, translated to equipping each couple with tools for the marriage road less traveled. Those tools were meant to help the couple build and repair the marriage according to God's plan. Through unconditional love, happiness and purpose are both possible. We learn through this episode how it is real purpose in and through our marriage that will beget happiness. Happiness in itself is not enough.In retirement, Bill coaches couples, leads retreats for couple groups, and speaks to congregations who desire happiness in marriage and seek to understand and adopt God's intention for marriage.Bill, his bride of forty plus years, Mary Beth, and Myrtle, their "Chiweenie" (a Chihuahua/dachshund mix) live in the beautiful Appalachian foothills of Dahlonega, Georgia. Their two daughters and sons-in-law have given them three terrific grandchildren.Resources and LinksBuy a copy of Bill’s book, Marriage Maximized: The Guide to a Purposeful and Passionate RelationshipAlso written by Bill Hutcheson from SelflessLove.net, Marriage Happiness IS PossibleYou can learn more about Bill’s services as a marriage coach, retreats, and free resources such as his devotional for married couples, The Maximized Couples’ Devotional: The Guide to Growing Together in Christ for Others at SelflessLove.net.Listen to these past episodes about healthy marriage and selfless loveBtR 226 - Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

Dad Coming Home Military Veteran Ben Killoy on Fatherhood

Marine Corps veteran, Ben Killoy, discusses the importance of dad coming home and being home, and the importance of building a tribe of dad friends.See the full show notes at BeyondTheRut.com/229Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show