Beyond the Rut: Create a Life Worth Living in Your Faith, Family, Career

BtR 016 – Go Pick a Fight, Why and How to Use Opposing Perspectives

Why Opposing Perspectives?We're not telling you to go pick a fight at a bar. In fact, we're not telling you to do anything violent at all. Please, do not go out and physically fight someone and blame it on this podcast episode. We're talking about the value of tapping into perspectives that are different, even opposite, of your own point of view.Yes, we have said, and will continue to say, that you should not tell a lot of people when you are first setting out on a dream or goal. Too much opposition early on can squash your confidence and courage to even get started. There is a time however when you're on your path that differing and opposing perspectives will help you along.Five Reasons Why You Should Seek Out Opposing PerspectivesIt forces you to expand your base of knowledge - look up facts, do more research, learn more about the opposing side.You will actively engage the "why" underlying your own beliefs.Anyone can lash out emotionally.  Respect and credibility comes to those who learn to express themselves intelligently and calmly.Points out your own bad ideas so you can make the best possible decisions.Let's you know if you are engaging a big enough circle of people with a big enough topic or purpose.We place ourselves in a rut when we see the world from only one perspective.Diversity is a Good ThingWe should challenge what is sacred in our beliefs for the very reasons stated above. Those who coach and mentor us should be trustworthy and able to bring a different perspective to our lives. The question is whether or not you will have the courage to invite, digest, and use opposing perspectives to help you make your own path. It takes courage to bring an opposing perspective. It takes even more courage to respectfully listen to it and admit it in those moments when we have to change something within ourselves. No matter what, it is worth having differing points of view.Links and ResourcesThe Cautionary Tale of the Dixie Chicks Controversy - There's a difference between seeking opposing perspectives and being controversial.Heart Disease versus Breast CancerBook - The Noticer by Andy Andrews (Buy it on Amazon)Book - My First Study Bible: Exploring God's Word on My Own (Listen to the episode to see why Brandon recommended this title.)Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 015 – The Magic Ratio for Happy Healthy Relationships

What is the Magic Ratio all about?Brandon and guest host, Jerry, talk about the magic ratio of positive to negative interactions that results in happy, healthy relationships. The Magic Ratio is based on work from Dr. John Gottman, an expert on communication in marriage.While this discussion is grounded in the context of happy, healthy relationships in marriage, the lessons and tips discussed here can be applied in business relationships, friendships, teams, with our customers, and other organizations and situations where interactions with people are involved. In fact, it was in a business leadership training where Jerry first learned about the Magic Ratio.Do you want a marriage that lasts a lifetime? Do you want employees who love working for you no matter what? Do you want customers who will not only come back again and again but also work for you as a free, never-ending, marketing campaign? This is the episode you don't want to miss.Links and ResourcesBuy Dr. John Gottman's book from Amazon, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours LastThe Scientific Basis for The Orcas Island Couples' Retreat: Divorce PredictorsA Fine Balance: The Magic Relationship to a Healthy Marriage by Dr. Shruti PoulsenThe Positive Perspective: Dr. Gottman's Magic Ratio by Ellie LisitsaAttend a Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference near you. Use Group Name "BeyondTheRut" and save up to $100 off the couple registration.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 014 – Tips on Guilt-Free Parenting While Pursuing Your Dreams

What is Guilt-Free Parenting?Pursuing a dream while also raising a family will sometimes seem to be in conflict. Guilt builds up as our work chips away at the attention we give to our families. Brandon and Shawn discuss four tips on how to have your cake and eat it, too. Guilt-free parenting is about being the best spouse and parent you can be while also pursuing that dream meant to make life better for the ones you love.Listen to this episode and share it with your family and friends.Four TipsBe present when you are presentInvolve the kids with your dream when possibleOnly make promises you can actually keepFor the ultimate tip in guilt-free parenting, consider the age of your children before you launch your dream. They are only young once. Will you miss out on those precious years?Related ArticlesWhat is Success? by Shawn Albright, 30-ish and Confused BlogFathers and Daughters: Six Things Dads with Daughters Should Know, Episode 66 of the Family Time Q&A Podcast - Brandon is a guest on FTQA with Jerry and Jerry's daughter, Emma. One of Shawn's tips for guilt-free parenting was to include your children in your dream. How about a marriage and family podcast where the host is open to his family calling him out, challenging him, and more? It's a dream come true!Tune in to Episode 15 about the magic ratio for happy, healthy marriages.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 013 – Getting People on Board with Your Dream

In this episode Brandon and Shawn discuss when and how to share your dream with others. Sometimes, we come out of the gate too soon and are met with resistance from those we expected support us. Other times we hurt our long-term credibility, or build a reputation of having a new crazy dream every six months. There comes a time when we do need to tell others about our dreams, our projects, because we will need their support to get the word out, generate hype, and even buy from us. That's what this episode is all about, getting people on board with your dream.When was a time you found the right support at the right time? When was a time you had a hard time getting people on board with your dream? Share in the comments below. We'd love to hear from you.Getting people on board with your dream is not always about quantity, but quality. You want to get the right people on at the right time to do the right thing as you grow your project, business, or organization. Start with a few trusted advisers, then go from there.Oh, there's a random reference to Viagra in this episode, too. Just go with it. - JerryGo to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 012 – The Power of Tribes and Getting Started

In today's information economy, your success is propelled by your ability to add value and build relationships with a niche of people.Inspired by Seth Godin's book, Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us, Brandon and Shawn tackle the topic of the power in tribes and just getting started."Turn accomplices into friends and you can be two-thirds more likely to succeed," Kerry Patterson, Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success.Join our tribe, subscribe to us on iTunes or Stitcher, join our email list, and send us a message. Connect with us!Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 011 – Significance Versus Status: Finding Real Satisfaction in the Work You Do

Where do you want to be in five years? Will you be making the change you wish to see in the world at that time? How do you find significance in the work you do now? These are just some of the questions Brandon and Shawn tackle in this episode of Beyond the Rut as they discuss significance versus status.We chase status symbols when we really want significance in our lives. Listen to this episode and discover how you can find real satisfaction in the work you do, or will do.Other tips and topics discussed:Remove "just a ____" from your vocabularyStay-at-home moms are so much more than "just a stay-at-home mom"How to tap into resources you may not realize you already haveGo to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 010 – Teach Your Children a Healthy View of Money

Your children are never too young to start learning about money. In this episode, Brandon and Shawn discuss the following:Allowances vs WagesIf you don't teach them, who will? AMEX?Savings, Spending, and GenerosityAppropriate advice for your children as they grow into adulthoodJust as it is never too early to teach your children about money, it is also never too late either. Brandon shares money advice he's recently given one of his sons regarding a business venture.What key advice have you shared with your children about money? Comment below.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 009 How to Get Ready to Pursue Your Dream

One day you're going to be ready to take the first step toward your dream, but are you ready?Rather than dealing with these issues after you've began your journey, wouldn't it be wise to get things in order ahead of time?  We aren't suggesting that you procrastinate your dream until everything is "perfect" but we are saying that you can start these things today as you plan your dream.There are four areas in your life you must be prepared for when you get ready to pursue your dream. Shawn and Brandon discuss the following in this episode: (2:46) Getting your finances in order, debt, savings, etc. (12:30) Marriage and relationships (15:44) Physical health (22:17) Putting your habits in checkResources and LinksUse Your Smartphone to Lose Weight by Jerry DuganMyFitnessPalVirtuagymWater Your Body app (iTunes, Google Play)Total Money Makeover by Dave RamseyFitBit Charge HR (count steps and track your heart rate, sleep patterns, challenge friends, and more)Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 008 – Difficult Conversations: Networking and Severing Toxic Relationships

Striking up conversations with strangers and initiating conversations that end relationships are two of the most difficult and and awkward interactions that many people avoid. However, both of these are necessary and beneficial to anyone trying to pursue a goal.To most people, networking is about as exciting as getting a root canal.  They think of networking as going to "social mixers" and handing out their business cards to a bunch of people that are also walking around handing out business cards.  No thanks! LinkedIn, Twitter, and other forms of social media has made meeting like-minded individuals so much easier.Unfortunately, social media has also made severing bad relationships that much harder as well.Listen in as we discuss some tips and perspective to make having these difficult conversations just a little easier.Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show

BtR 007 – Tired of Being Tired (Physical Health)

Tired of being tired?  So are we.  Your family and career will both benefit from you getting healthy.  Most of us have tried and failed a million times.  We fail, get depressed, eat terrible to comfort ourselves, get inspired, re-commit, try for a few days/weeks, then fail again.If you listen to everything the "experts" say about health, you're likely in a constant state of confusion as to what is and is not healthy. Take a step back from all of that and consider some of the most basic, time tested practices that could have almost immediate benefits.Your plan to getting healthy should be simple.  You don't need to be a nutritional or fitness expert.  You just need to use a little common sense and take a small step...today!  A little habit leads to a little health, and a little health will eventually lead to bigger habits and greater health.This isn't about losing weight; it's about having energy for life!Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself.Support the showMusic Hopeful Camping Folk | Camping by Alex-Productions | https://youtu.be/aUHdSwhiNVU Music promoted by https://onsound.eu/ Go to BeyondTheRut.com/capsho for your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Click on BeyondTheRut.com/capsho to claim your free 14-day trial and see for yourself. Support the show